Living in Magic

There exists a profound duality to living with a degree of pain. Your days continue, life goes on, the sun rises each morning, classes continue and homework is still due. People smile and wave, and your feet seem to somehow carry you to the next place...and the next. You find yourself smiling back, thanking the bag boy, asking the old woman if she needs help, and putting on makeup again. But inside, deep within the caverns of your soul, you ache. Your breaking heart gasps and tears at the thick walls of your will, and you silence its screams as you wave back to the girl selling peaches.

On the outside, in the world of expressions and smiles and words shared but not really heard, you're doing well. Busyness holds you in an embrace of security you can't seem to hold tight enough. Responsibilities surround you in a comforting amnesia. You cling to meetings, deadlines and obligations as if your life depends on it, and really, your sanity does.

Because inside, hiding below the surface where the world can't see, a numbness lurks that threatens your stability. The monster beneath the bed, the elephant in the room, the ghost in the hallway. A devastating ache that eats at your stomach, tears at your heart, and clouds your eyes with tears when you least expect it. But no-one can see it and the sun still shines on obliviously. Happily unaware of the battle of sanity raging behind your eyes.

So you continue on and look for the beautiful, subtle details in life that hide in the corners waiting for you to find them. It's a strategic game of magical hide and seek. Hide from the pain by seeking the beauty, the details that make your heart remember warmth and light, the smell of the sea that fills your lungs with life and peace and reassurance. It's a self-fulfilling prophesy; force yourself to focus on the tiny beautiful details in life in order to claw your way back to a reality where life itself is again one vast, enveloping, beautiful moment.

"...All of these things (and more) make up the magic of every ordinary day and if we are able to live in this magic, to feel and to dwell in it, we will find ourselves living with magic every day. There are white spaces in life, the spaces in between the written lines, the cracks in which the sunshine filters into. Some of us swim in the overflowing of the wine glass of life, we stand and blink our eyes in the sunlight reaching unseen places, we know where to find the white spaces, we live in magic." - C. JoyBell C.

No Response

"She was extending a hand that I didn't know how to take, so I broke its fingers with my silence." -Jonathan Safran Foer

"'I don't want to lose you.' His voice almost a whisper. Seeing his haggard expression, she took his hand and squeezed it, then reluctantly let it go. She could feel the tears again, and she fought them back. 'But you don't want to keep me, either, do you?' To that, he had no response."

Fooood

I made cilantro-curry shrimp stir-fry, breaded cod, and fresh green beans tonight. Dessert is going to be cottage cheese with juicy pears I bought at the farmer's market this morning.

I feel like such an adult. 

With all your might

Try to learn to breathe deeply, really to taste food when you eat, and when you sleep, really to sleep. Try as much as possible to be wholly alive with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell. And when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough.
-Ernest Hemingway

Untitled

I've spent nine months working on this Mexico research project. It's been my life; I've fallen asleep with multiple open books scattered around me, I've cried with undocumented migrants deep in Jalisco, I've drunk tequila with nonagenarians who still remember the Cristero War, I've spend countless hours drafting this article and dozens of weekends with my equipo arguing about public health theory we're incorporating. I'm staying a 5th year because of this project. And now, I sit here in front of my computer screen, deadlines looming, responsibility overwhelming...and I don't care. I just don't care.

I look at the words before me. Each word significant, every sentence has been debated, polished, scrutinized and agreed upon...but to me they seem foreign. Detached. I read the words, but my eyes pass apathetically over the words. I don't care.

Not in a rebellious, irresponsible way. It's not negligence, it's numbness. I desperately want to care. I want to return to a state of excitement, curiosity, passion, eagerness and sentience. But I'm numb. Interest is exhausting. Conversations are draining, leaving me weary and introverted. Passion sounds terrifying.

I don't have time for this. I need to care. I desperately, desperately need to care. But the more I try to force myself to participate, drag myself to meetings and class, make myself focus, the more I just want to curl into a ball of silence and warmth. I just want to sit beneath a tall, apathetic tree and silently watch the world whirl by. My eyes are dry; I have no tears left to cry until I'm drowning in them. 

You fine

It's just past 4am and I'm finally closing my laptop and putting the countless pages of notes back into my massive notebook. Tonight was hard. Overwhelming. Emotional. I'm angry about things I can't fix, frustrated over time I can't get back, aching for hugs I can't have, lonely for company I can't share, scrambling for words I can't find and struggling with a general feeling of defeat. And then, my intuitive, dear friend in Mexico sent me a short, simple message that picked my heart off the ground and helped me breathe. Gracias.

Johnny and Refugees

Sunshine streams through the window as I listen to Johnny Cash and apply for a job promotion. I'm rocking three jobs right now, but the promotion would mean I could trim that down to two next year. Fingers crossed, guys...the extra time and extra dinero would be a beautiful thing. 

Had an emotional morning with my refugees today. Goodbyes are always hard and while I know from day one that I only have a short time with them, I can never keep my heart out of my work. I've grown to love my group of 25 Iraqis and will miss them dearly. The past 8 weeks flew by too fast and our goodbyes turned a bit tearful as we hugged goodbye. I am *so* proud of them, so excited for them as they struggle to start their new lives...but oh, I'm going to miss them. We've shared coffee, laughs, tears, and political comparisons for two months and I consider them my friends.  In two weeks I'll get another group and the 8 weeks will start all over again. New faces, new starts, new relationships...but I'm going to miss these guys. How do teachers do this?